I love a good deal. I’m from a place where you don’t brag about what you bought, you bragged about the deal you made. The actual product you got was secondary to the fact of asking for a better price and getting it. Some people love the thrill of the sale and chasing down a good money saving deal.
Don’t get me wrong I love a good deal and I love to save money on my purchases, it’s the asking for a better price that I have always had problems with…
Also it’s the hassle of going through all the motions of the deal, the asking for a better price, the waiting and then the holding out and asking again (if needed). I used to feel like I didn’t have the time for it. It’s pretty normal, you get busy, our lives are busy and the last thing you need/want to do is waste your time finding out if you can get a better deal.
It’s Really About Being Rejected
I don’t like being told “No”. I feel like I have failed in some strange way. But I realized that I needed to get around it. So like anything I do, I started out awful and started to work on being better at it.
Flash forward a few months and it’s a lot easier. From Satellite radio, to Alarm company monitoring fees, to Internet rebates and Car discounts even groceries. My asking for a better price has come a long way this past year. It has saved me hundreds and more likely thousands!
Here’s what I did to change my thoughts on getting a deal, and getting past the asking point as I like to call it:
Change your perspective
Really, if you think about it, if you ask for a discount or a lower price and are told “No”, what has really happened?
You are in the exact same spot as you were before. Except now you know you have the best price (or at least best price you feel you could get), and really the clerk doesn’t care. They probably go through this 20 times a day. They have forgotten about it the minute you walk out.
It’s really what you tell yourself after you ask and don’t get. Any of these sound familiar?
“I’m so stupid, I can’t believe I asked.”
“I’m so embarrassed right now”
“Looks like I am never coming back to this place again”
Really these are all made up things we tell ourselves. They aren’t true, but they do hold you back.
Here’s what I do now:
I ask (I still have a lot of mental talk trying to prevent me from doing this), it gets easier every time.
I ask if there is anyone else that could give me a discount such as the owner or manager
If I get some type of discount I celebrate, if not I tell myself “Nothing gained nothing lost” and I move on. No negative self talk, it’s over move on.
If you don’t start asking for a better price, you don’t get one
This has been a hard lesson to learn, one that I’m trying to impart on my kids. You don’t get anything in this life unless you ask for it. People can’t give you what you want unless you ask for what you want. So ask, ask, ask!
It’s your duty to keep your money
My dad is a great ask-er (again not too sure if that’s a word). Anywhere we go he will automatically ask for a deal. I used to find it embarrassing, now I get it. It’s his money and he wants to keep as much of it as possible. He’s coming from a place of knowing that every dollar you don’t spend is an extra dollar you can use for something else.
Make it a game
The more I watch people that do it, and the more I do it myself, I see it as one big game. You might not know you are playing, most people don’t, I didn’t. The name of the game is: “the more you save the more you win”. Most people don’t know they are playing, or that they are allowed to play. You are in this game, start asking, get your wins!
Just do it
Really the only thing holding you back is yourself here. The doubt, the uncertainty, the unsure-ness (is that a word?), it all sinks in your stomach and holds you back. Just ask, don’t think about it. The more you do it the easier it will get.
Here’s what you do
The next time you are buying something, when it’s appropriate get in the habit of asking for a better price.
Ask the sales clerk:
What’s the best price I can get on this?
Can the manager give me a better price?
Can I get it for (insert your price here)?
That’s it! Just get in the habit of asking. The more you do the easier it gets. There are a ton of other tactics you can use. But for now get use to asking for a better price. The rest will come later on.
Make a point of asking once a day for a discount. Sure you will feel foolish, but you might save, and eventually you will save. Post your successes below, I want to hear all about your successes!