Dad, How Do I “Do Money”?
As a parent, anytime you kids start something new there is a part of you that wants to hold on to the old way. Because every new step in life your kids take reaffirms that they are getting older and that means you’re getting older too. So when I finally decided that our kids should start earning an allowance, I have to say, I wasn’t ready for it.
As a parent you find yourself wanting to help your kids develop into a self-reliant person and at the same time never lose your precious little boy or girl.
“So Dad,” my daughter asked. “How do I… you know… “Do Money”?”
Trying to lay out what the best way to “Do Money” to my daughter was easier that explaining “What is money” to my son. Still all the while I’m thinking. “God please don’t let me mess them up.”
The Questions I Struggled With:
I had the following thoughts.
Do I go into a variation of my own money system that I have been using? No too detailed.
Do I just give them money and keep quiet, hoping they figure it out on their own? No too vague.
Is what I learned the best way, or am I being completely biased in my approach to my kids. Probably, but at least you have done it and know it’s potential.
Go With What You Know
In the end, I decided to go with my parents had done to me. (I mean, I’m a complete mess on a good day, but the money system my dad gave me sounded right still and it was tested).
“Here’s how you “do money” Kiddo.” I said.
The Two Piggy Banks Rule
“You will have two piggy banks,” I started off. “One for saving and the other for spending.”
“You will put half of your allowance into each. You always have to put at least half into saving and can always put more if you want.”
“The savings account is for saving up for something big. What is something you really want?”
“An iPod!“, she responded with the speed of Usain Bolt.
“Ok, let’s see what an iPod will cost you.” I quickly looked it up. “It’s about $300 that you will need to save up.”
She looked at me trying to figure out how long it would take her to save up. Then said, “What can I use my spending money on.”
“Anything you want, as long as mom and I approve, of course.” I said.
I managed to force a smile, “Yes. You can spend it on Shopkins if you want. But the more you save the quicker you will get to your iPod” I told her. (Truth be told, I
hated wasn’t thrilled with the idea of my daughter wasting money, but I knew that we all go through these collector phases.)
The best thing to do is have a chart and keep it visual. So we came up with a simple grid for her to check off as she put money into her savings. Since both of our kids wanted iPods we gave them the same chart and set it up on their bulletin boards so they could see it all the time.
Next time I’ll sum up how we handle our kids allowances.
I’m curious to know how you handle your kids allowances? Am I way off? How did you get paid when you were a kid? Did you think it was a good way or would you change it if you could? Let me know in the comments below.