Ever think about what kind of advice you would give yourself if you could go back to when you were 18? As our kids get older I think about my life when I was their age and what I would tell myself if I could Marty McFly (I can’t help a good Back to the Future reference) myself back to when I got out of high school.
Here’s the letter I wished I had received…
“Buddy, you’ve made it. Congratulations!!!
Right now the air smells a little sweeter and you are probably as excited about the future as you are nervous.
There are so many things I want to share with you but the first one is most important.
Learn to live with less.
Living with less will help you as the years go on.
It’s not as flashy as other ways of living.
But if you are looking for a sound financially smart way to live your life, living with less is the way to go.
The longer you go along in life, you will find that living with less means more freedom.
As you go through life keep in mind the following:
Having More Stuff Doesn’t Mean More Money… Usually It Means The Opposite
Every where you will go in life, people will have more things than you.
Don’t worry about it.
The truth is that their lifestyles are largely fuelled by debt.
Living on debt means they are spending their future before they get there.
At some point, the debt will catch up to them. And those fun times they had, the ones they actually couldn’t afford but did anyways, will be a burden for years to come.
Often for the rest of their lives.
Remember: Just because someone has more stuff than you, doesn’t mean they have more money than you.
On Thinking Everyone is Happier Than You Because They Have More Stuff
Unfortunately nobody walks around with their net worth on their shirt saying:
“Hi my name s Al, I owe $13,444 in credit card debt.”
You can’t see people’s money situations. Trust me you don’t want to.
When you are entering into the workforce, everyone wants to impress everyone. Y
ou will see people spend outlandish amounts of money and ask yourself:
“How do they do it?”
The truth is they don’t do it.
They borrow it. AND… they borrow it at ridiculously high interest rates over long periods of time.
That sweet new $2000 car system they bought? It will cost them double that over the life of their credit card debt.
Be wise, stay away.
A Truth That Many of Us Hide From
Really these people are buying things to impress people they don’t know.
Why? I don’t know.
Possibly because they are insecure.
Maybe they know they don’t make enough money and adopt a “Fake it till you make it” mindset.
Don’t be a fool. Focus on the “make it” part and more importantly focus on keeping what you make.
I used to think everyone that drove a fancy car was richer than me, smarter than me, or knew something I didn’t know.
The truth is that they didn’t know any more than me. They were just willing to go into more debt than me.
If that makes them smart, then I’m happy to stay dumb.
If you ever hear someone say, “It’s only $99 (or any other dollar figure) a month.”
You can translate that to they couldn’t afford it.
If someone ever tries to sell you something with the same pitch of low monthly payments WALK AWAY.
They are trying to sell you something you can’t afford.
They may as well be saying: “How would you like to buy this thing you can’t afford right now and be a slave to this item while you pay it off?”
Sounds terrible doesn’t it?
Friend I don’t know how else to put it: Keep more than you make.
Look for ways to make more. Believe in yourself. You’ve accomplished more than you give yourself credit for. Confidence in yourself will be your best ally. Stay hungry and keep improving.
On Thinking For Yourself and Working Hard
Don’t give into other peoples ideas about how things should be.
Think for yourself.
If everyone you know is going into ridiculous debt for things they don’t really need, is there a reason for you to follow?
The old saying “If everyone else was jumping off a bridge, would you?” rings true. Don’t let their mistakes become your own.
Lead by example, sometimes people will call you cheap.
Sometimes it will be unsettling, but I can guarantee that spending your future earnings trying to impress others in the moment will be much worse.
On Becoming a Millionaire
If you are getting out into the working world and you want to be a millionaire you will need to give up on the ideas of fancy yachts and private jets, for the time being. Sure some millionaires do have those things. Most of them don’t. The millionaires that you want to be like are everywhere around you.
They are the store owners, the businessmen, investors and the business owners.
The ones who show up everyday and do their jobs. They focus on working hard and making smart choices.
They are the ones that focus on earning and keeping more of what they earn.
That is the path to becoming a millionaire.
It’s not sexy, but it’s the truth.
On Being A Critical Thinker
As you go into the workforce, everyone will try and persuade you to their way of thinking.
They will make you think that they have this whole thing called “Life” figured out.
More than likely they don’t know any better than you.
They are hoping you will see their point of view and agree with them.
This will in turn validate them and the things they are doing.
They are trying to make their dumb decisions look like good ones and need your approval.
Don’t fall for this.
If you are going to follow someone, chose that person for the right reasons, not because they want you to follow them.
Definitely not because they have a nice car, fancy watch, or big home. Too many people believe they know whats best for you.
Only YOU know whats best for YOU. You have a brain, use it!
On Comparing Yourself To Others
There is one sure way to feel miserable and it’s comparing yourself to others.
It’s normal and we all do it. It can serve as good motivation, but it can also have the opposite effect.
If you must compare yourself to someone else compare the whole person, not just one feature.
If they have more money than you, do they have their health? Good friends? Are they enjoyable to be around? Are they a good person?
We usually pick one characteristic from a person and want to be that way, but we when you look at that person’s life as a whole, you will think very differently.
Above All Else Find Happiness
Remember that money is a tool, it’s not good or bad, it’s what you make it.
Ultimately in life happiness is what matters, true lasting happiness.
Keep moving forward and use happiness as your guiding light.
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